So I've only posted a few times and realized that I never did a REAL "introduction" post. I guess this will be it.
My name is Marc and I was born female. I'm 33 years old, and my wife and I have been married since September 2006. We've talked about starting a family when we got married. Maybe even a bit before. (I can't remember.) As we started the process of looking at donors and started to figure out how we will pay for everything things were put on hold. I was depressed, not with our marriage or life really... but depressed with myself. I started going to therapy and finally realized what was making me so miserable. I finally came to terms with the fact that I was transgender. I was male, stuck in a female body. And I dropped the bomb on my wife and told her that I knew what I needed to do to be happy, was to start my transition. So I did. I started Testosterone, changed my name, started going by male pronouns, etc...
Starting our family was put on hold. We needed to work on our relationship first. Things were rocky and we need to build back up our lives before we went forward with having a child. I'll fast forward a bit since this blog isn't about my marriage, but things ended up working out.
As things were finally coming together and we were a happy married couple again, the topic of kids came back up. We started looking up donors again and started saving money. We knew our insurance wasn't going to pay for any of this, so we just started saving as much money as we could. We went to a local hospital and talked with their fertility specialists to start the process of having kids. We let the doctor know I was trans and that we needed to use a donor. I was worried at first. I never know how people will be when I bring up the fact that I'm trans. Its not that I'm stealth about it by any means. Its just not the first thing I bring up to people when I meet them. He told us that it wasn't a problem and they could help! We were happy!
We finally decided on a donor and bought the vial online to be sent to the hospital. (I still think its a crazy process that you can just go online and order sperm from the cryobank!) We could only afford one vial at a time after saving for months so we were hoping for the best. When my wife got to go ahead from the ovulation predictor kit we did our first IUI, waited our 2 weeks and... shark week came for my wife and we were back to saving.
When we finally saved and saved month after month and did the whole process 2 more times... and nothing. We were getting discouraged. I felt inferior as a man that I couldn't produce sperm of my own. I had to keep telling myself that there are other couples who try and try for years and years... we couldn't lose hope after only trying 3 times. The doctor said it takes on average of about 3-5 IUIs with a healthy woman before there was conception. We were still in that range. And my wife didn't have any fertility issues. So we didn't lose hope.
We saved up again and finally... on our fourth try... the eagle landed! We got our BFP (Big Fat Positive) at the end of November 2013.
So here we are... my wife is 23 almost 24 weeks pregnant, we are prepping for little G to arrive and I'm gonna be a father... finally.
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